Anniversary or Anniverseries
August 18, 2015
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Tomorrow is the first day of my 21st anniversary. See unlike most folks with one anniversary date, we celebrate on the 19th and the 20th. This is because of a memory mistake on our first wedding anniversary. In 1995 we had moved to Alabama. We were away from everyone that attended our wedding. We were trying to build a life in a new place while taking care of a toddler and a baby. Stress was our daily bread. We used evening walks as family building and to explore my husband’s childhood memories. On 8-19-1995 we were out walking at about 7 in the evening when it hit me that it might be our anniversary. I asked my husband if i was tripping or had we forgotten our anniversary. He agreed that we just might have. So we stopped walking. We hugged and kissed declaring our love for each other while our daughter made faces and our son drooled. We promised each other eternity. We vowed to never forget our anniversary again. And we didn’t. For the next six years when the 19th rolled around we made sure to declare our love and devotion outloud.
Then I had someone ask me for my certified marriage certificate to verify that my last name could legally be hyphenated. Since we were back in Arizona, I ran downtown to get a copy. As I was reading over the information, I got stuck on the date. There in black and white, the date was listed as August 20, 1994. All I could think was “say what now!?!” I mean we had been clebrating on the 19th for 7 years. So I thought the certificate had to be wrong. I went home and used my phone calendar to go back to August 1994. Lo and behold, the certificate was right and we were wrong. I said eff it, we’ve always celebrated on the 19th and we will just keep on celebrating on the 19th. My husband told me “well you can celebrate on the 19th but this paper says my anniversary is on the 20th.” I told him that wouldnt feel right to me. He told me that celebrating on the wrong day didn’t feel right to him. No one was winning the war of petty reasoning until he said ” well you celebrate on the 19th and I’ll celebrate on the right day.” When our next anniversary rolled around, I was prepared to celebrate on the 20th. But on the afternoon of the 19th my husband came home with flowers, candy and a card. I asked him why he was giving me stuff a day early. He told me that this was the stuff for my anniversary and that i would get my gift for HIS anniversary the next day. So i ran in the room and gave him the card and shirt that i had bought him. I told him he would get the rest of his stuff on his anniversary. The next day we gave each other some awesome material items but i had already recieved the best gift of all, my husband. He is humor, understanding, love, support, strength and pettiness all rolled into a chocolate teddy bear. I love that dude even when he is getting on my only working nerve. He is my dream fulfilled. So the next couple of days may get mushy, corny or even exasperating but it won’t be boring cause life with Paul Jackson Sr. never is.