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Makeup For You~Affordable Brands That Cater to Your Every Need

The Phoenix:

An interesting post on affordable make up lines.

Originally posted on Beauty by Sidd:

Most people haven’t dove into the makeup pool because they feel as if they can’t afford it. If they do find affordable makeup, then it must not be good quality, right? Wrong! There are many affordable brands that are worth trying out! Heres a quick list of what I have found and used.

E.L.F.– Eyes. Lips. Face: the name says it all! This brand is essential for someone starting out with makeup. You can get an entire look for under $40!

The thing I love about ELF is that their main goal is to make an affordable, quality product and they really achieve that. I’ve used multiple products from this company. Their brushes last a long time and cost anywhere from one to ten dollars, with ten dollars being the most expensive brush on their site! Their makeup has great color pay off and they have amazing sets…

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Anniversary or Anniverseries

Tomorrow is the first day of my 21st anniversary. See unlike most folks with one anniversary date, we celebrate on the 19th and the 20th. This is because of a memory mistake on our first wedding anniversary. In 1995 we had moved to Alabama. We were away from everyone that attended our wedding. We were trying to build a life in a new place while taking care of a toddler and a baby. Stress was our daily bread. We used evening walks as family building and to explore my husband’s childhood memories. On 8-19-1995 we were out walking at about 7 in the evening when it hit me that it might be our anniversary. I asked my husband if i was tripping or had we forgotten our anniversary. He agreed that we just might have. So we stopped walking. We hugged and kissed declaring our love for each other while our daughter made faces and our son drooled. We promised each other eternity. We vowed to never forget our anniversary again. And we didn’t. For the next six years when the 19th rolled around we made sure to declare our love and devotion outloud. 
Then I had someone ask me for my certified marriage certificate to verify that my last name could legally be hyphenated. Since we were back in Arizona, I ran downtown to get a copy. As I was reading over the information, I got stuck on the date. There in black and white, the date was listed as August 20, 1994. All I could think was “say what now!?!” I mean we had been clebrating on the 19th for 7 years. So I thought the certificate had to be wrong. I went home and used my phone calendar to go back to August 1994. Lo and behold, the certificate was right and we were wrong. I said eff it, we’ve always celebrated on the 19th and we will just keep on celebrating on the 19th. My husband told me “well you can celebrate on the 19th but this paper says my anniversary is on the 20th.” I told him that wouldnt feel right to me. He told me that celebrating on the wrong day didn’t feel right to him. No one was winning the war of petty reasoning until he said ” well you celebrate on the 19th and I’ll celebrate on the right day.” When our next anniversary rolled around, I was prepared to celebrate on the 20th. But on the afternoon of the 19th my husband came home with flowers, candy and a card. I asked him why he was giving me stuff a day early. He told me that this was the stuff for my anniversary and that i would get my gift for HIS anniversary the next day. So i ran in the room and gave him the card and shirt that i had bought him. I told him he would get the rest of his stuff on his anniversary. The next day we gave each other some awesome material items but i had already recieved the best gift of all, my husband. He is humor, understanding, love, support, strength and pettiness all rolled into a chocolate teddy bear. I love that dude even when he is getting on my only working nerve. He is my dream fulfilled. So the next couple of days may get mushy, corny or even exasperating but it won’t be boring cause life with Paul Jackson Sr. never is.

Atticus and Me

The Phoenix:

In my youth, and up until now, I had never read “To Kill A Mockingbird”. I rejected the “classics” because they rejected me and my lived experiences. They were typically written by people on the other side of the tracks. They wrote about the view from the good side of town while my spiritual ancestors came from the Bottoms and the Hollers. I was and am a voracious reader but I read on my terms. I devoured Toni Morrison, Alice Walker, Wole Soyinka, Octavia Butler and the like. I endured the casual bigotry of Mark Twain, Stephen King and Elmore Leonard because I enjoyed the way they wove their tales. I read E.A. Poe because I love a dark mind. I read JD Robb/ Nora Roberts because I enjoy the magic she adds to her worlds. I read Sunshine Taylor Reddick/ Stormy Reddick because she is a kickass Sci-Fi writer following in the footsteps of Octavia Butler and Tannarive Due. So I am neither surprised nor disappointed in what folks are discovering in Atticus Finch. What I am curious about is how so many intelligent folks were able to divorce this character from his era. As an outsider looking in, I wonder if this is why they can’t see the casual bigotry and, in some cases, the outright racism of their contemporaries. Is this why they disregard the reports of POC who have been victimized by bigotry? Are they, like me, so invested in seeing themselves in the protagonist that they cannot fathom a flawed multi-faceted character who may harbor ill feelings about those lower in the hierarchy? Maybe this new book in the Finch canon brings up uncomfortable feelings about self. I don’t know because as I’ve stated I never read the book. The only comparison I have is the ongoing saga of Bill Cosby.
I watched all of his TV shows. I ate jello pudding pops because he endorsed them. I dreamed of going to an HBCU because of his influence. I disagreed with many of his speeches on Black Americans. And I now believe that he is a serial sexual abuser. I was able to divorce the man from the characters he played. I can enjoy the entertainment without turning the man into a false idol. He came from the era of respectability politics. While I do not respect Bill Cosby, I enjoy Cliff Huxtable.
I say all of this to say, we all look for ourselves in the characters we fall for. But those characters are just sketches of life in a particular time and space. They are reflections of us but they aren’t us. Reality is much more complicated. As such, we should never be surprised when they reflect our own ugliness back at us.
By the way, because of the uproar of the new Finch book I will be picking up both tomes. I want to see if there was casual bigotry that was overlooked in the first book that should have clued folks in to the fact that Atticus was as rabidly racist as his era.

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I read “To Kill a Mockingbird” the summer between 8th and 9th grade. It was a hot, Southern summer and my mom and I went into a bookstore to look for some indoor reading. She bought me the book, and I took it home and devoured it.

I was transformed, both in a moral and literary sense. I would never forget the idea that standing up for the right thing, even when you know you are going to lose, is noble.  And, in no small part due to that book, I became an English major. (I had entered college as a pre-law student, but once I realized that I couldn’t be Atticus Finch, I gave that up.) Even today, when I’m asked to list my favorite novels, Harper Lee’s book is on the shortlist.

We even have a cat named “Atticus”.

So when I heard about “Go Set a Watchman”…

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I Am a Native American Woman With White Privilege

The Phoenix:

Bravo! This young lady has experienced the “light bulb” moment. While it may be uncomfortable for those with lighter skin to accept this fact of American life, this awareness is needed to truly fight for equality for all. We all have to look behind the smoke and mirrors to see that the wizard is just a man. Once we get over our awe of the system that “American Exceptionalism” created we can start to fill in the chinks that keep darker skinned folks out in the cold. This fight for equality won’t just benefit the darker folks but our entire society by allowing more ideas to be heard, by allowing more minds to be nurtured and by allowing families to add to the economic base. Examine your privilege and determine if it can be used to help us all.

Originally posted on Misty Has A Blog:

First off, I think it’s important to say that I do not, and have not ever primarily identified as white. On my mother’s side, I’m Native American, enrolled in ghostmy Tribe, and, to a large extent, raised in my culture. I was born on the reservation and lived on or near reservations for much of my life. Indigenous cultural signifiers are important to me – I love Coastal designs and canoes. I love to eat Salmon, attend gatherings, and socialize at potlatches or powwows. However, due to genetics (while both my grandparents on my mother’s side are Indigenous, my grandmother is light-skinned, and my grandfather, of mixed ancestry) it so happens that I am light. Like, really light. Light as a ghost, let-me-put-my-arm-next-to-yours-and-compare-whiteness light. Some people call me glow-worm because they think I’ll be florescent under blacklights.

There are a lot of ways in which it sucks to be a…

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I am racist, and so are you.

Originally posted on Being Shadoan:

And the sooner we both acknowledge this, the sooner we can begin to address the problem. So let’s talk.

“Wait just a minute here, Rachel. You’re like, the least racist person I know. You’re always sharing stuff about race and racism. You couldn’t possibly be racist.”

Here’s the deal. Racism isn’t just guys in white robes and Paula Deen shouting racial slurs. Racism is subtle, racism is insidious, and our culture is so deeply steeped in it that it’s impossible to grow up in the US and not be racist. It’s a kind of brainwashing: a set of default configuration files that come with the culture. It’s a filter, built up from birth, that alters our perception of the world. (Literally–racial bias makes people see weapons that aren’t there.) Racism isn’t just conscious actions; it’s judgements that happen so fast that we may not even be aware of…

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Azealia Banks Goes After Erykah Badu & We’re Like, She Needs A Time Out

The Phoenix:

When you are young, you tend to be brash. Sometimes you forget that you are not invincible. In this case, I feel that Ms. Banks is doing more harm to her fledgling career by alienating a known entity than any of her previous twitter antics. She has not learned some valuable lessons and as long as she continues to play the game this way she will only achieve infamy instead of the fame she seems to crave.
While this may seem like just another celebrity post this is actually another way of looking at workplace dynamics; your attitude expressed can hinder achievement if your team leader does not believe that you have appropriate interpersonal communication skills. If you make your coworkers uncomfortable with unfounded negative claims they will not trust you to work on projects with them. So understand that taking personal shots could get you fired quicker than time management issues. In all things be judicious in the way you speak to others.

Originally posted on HelloBeautiful:


Once again Azealia Banks is on a Twitter tyrant and this time she’s set her sights on Erykah Badu of all people. A few days ago, a fan of Ms. Badu’s asked if she ever listened to Azealia’s music, to which Erykah replied:

Seems innocent enough right? Well Azealia didn’t take it that way and got all up in her feelings and decided to launch an attack on Twitter against the singer and replied:

How’s Erykah shading though? She didn’t diss Azealia’s music, Erykah just said she attempted to listen to it. Anyways, that just wasn’t enough for the Broke With Expensive Taste rapper who followed up with:


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Howard Morgan: Black Chicago Cop Shot 28 Times By White Officers Still Fighting For Justice

The Phoenix:

Even being a fellow law enforcement official does not protect Black Lives.

Originally posted on News One:

Howard Morgan Case
Lawyer Benjamin Crump depicts Howard Morgan’s (pictured) case as the height of calumny, or the slander of an innocent man. Illinois Cook County Public Defender Lester Finkle says the case represents the epitome of racial bias in America, and Rosalind Morgan, Howard’s wife, is calling for the courts to right a wrong committed against her husband, the Black former Chicago police officer who was shot 28 times by four White officers on the way home from work. And to add insult to injury, Howard ended up being the one convicted of attempting to murder them.

RELATED:Help! Chicago Wife Fights To Free Husband Who Was Shot By Police 28 Times

Last month, the Illinois State Appellate Court upheld Morgan’s conviction on four counts of attempted first-degree murder of the police officers. He was sentenced to 40 years in prison, although he was shot 21 times in the back…

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‪#‎MikeBrown‬, ‪#‎Ferguson‬, & ‪#‎EricGarner‬ has shown that even your own family won’t get it, if they aren’t Black too.
I’ve seen #MikeBrown and the protestors depicted as criminals. I say even if he robbed a store (and that is still in doubt as the cashier of the convenience store initially denied that) that was not a death penalty crime. But we will never know because Darren Wilson stopped his life before we could find out.
While some protestors may have committed criminal acts most have not, yet they are all considered criminals. Even Dr. King knew that riots were the reaction of the powerless and voiceless.
The decision not to indict Darren Wilson is suspect based on the asst. DA’s “mistake” in giving the grand jurors a copy of a statute describing the justifiable use of force that had been ruled unconstitutional in 1985 by the U.S. Supreme Court. And to compound that, she never completely clarified that before they began deliberations.
Everybody wants to focus on the criminality of the residents but no one wants to focus on the conditions that led to the situation.
Then we have #EricGarner. His death was ruled a homicide by the coroner. His death was videotaped. The officer was using a chokehold; a technique that was outlawed by NYPD. But once again, no indictment.
Folks are sick and tired of being sick and tired. We are tired that our lives mean absolutely nothing. We are tired of being told that we are playing the race card; hell I don’t even play spades. We are tired of our friends saying “yes, that was a terrible thing that happened but it happens to women, disabled, gays, etc. too”. I am tired of spending my day praying that my sons and daughter make it home whole. So if you don’t get it now, you never will. Just hope that folks are more understanding if it happens to you.

The Two Races in America

The Two Races in America

Growing up I was told that I would need to work twice as hard to get half as far. I needed to learn to live in two societies: the mainstream and my home community. I had to learn two ways of speaking, thinking and acting so that I could achieve my goals. I was subtly shown that my home community was considered less than by those in the mainstream. Folks were astonished with my elocution, intelligence and interests because they were unaware that my “kind” was just like their “kind”.

In the 90’s, my “kind” was told that the playing field was level so we no longer needed the hard fought protections of certain laws. We began to be accused of reverse racism. We lost so much of the ground that our ancestors fought for.

In the new millennium, we were told we should be colorblind; that we lived in a post racial society. We were told that we were playing a hand of cards from an era that no longer existed. I knew better though because I had been in this race a long time. I knew that as long as me and mine were considered hyphenated Americans instead of just Americans that all the rest was smoke and mirrors. For too long others have determined that the narratives of their fellow citizens were only the fairy tales of race baiters. For far too long others have tried to prove to us that skin color had no effect on perceptions. Now as 2014 turns into 2015, the blinders are being forced off by the actions of the military organizations masquerading as civil servants that protect and serve. I, for one, am glad.

I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired. I’m tired of trying to adjust the rules for my sons so that they can make it home alive. I’m tired of denying my daughters full confidence in their feminity so that they aren’t viewed as typical wanton belly warmers. I am tired of over thinking what I put on to run to the grocery. I’m tired of my husband being passed over for promotions even though he has more credentials than those directly above him on the corporate ladder. I’m tired of being turned into the suspect when I report crime to the police. I’m tired… I’m also mad as hell that some of the people I love more than oxygen just can’t seem to understand. I’m mad that I have to question the motives of my Mexican and White relatives because they don’t get it either. I’m mad that my children will eventually have to navigate this course.

Hopefully by the time I meet my grandkids, their race will be easier.

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