Eccentric and Bent

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Love and Happiness

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day.  In America, the day is heavily skewed towards romantic love. It puts undue (in my opinion) pressure on people to be a part of a couple on that day. You have folks willing to accept any type of treatment just to say they have a date.  You have other folks who are in shitty relationships praising their partners for a few scraps of faux fur sewn together and drug store chocolates.  These are the same people you see on the social network sites complaining about their no good Significant Others on the other days of the year.  I really don’t understand that mentality.

Then there is me. I have a husband who shows me love and respect every day of the year. I try to give him the exact same thing because he is my best friend.

Yet society has tried to convince him that he is less worthy if he does not run out and buy me diamonds, candy, or cards on the day they have deemed as the day of love.  I told him not to buy me anything. Just knowing that he would come home and bring his smile was enough for me. I did not buy him anything but I did make him a bracelet, business card holder, and a card. I did not make these items to honor a day but to honor him. I gave him the bracelet a week ago. I gave him the business card holder a few days after that. I did give him the card yesterday, but that is because that is when I finished it. I love my husband every day and I know that he loves me every day. But more importantly I love myself.  I don’t need a holiday to validate my relationship.

I think that if more people concentrated on self-love they would not need a stuffed animal or chocolates to make them feel good.  If you love yourself, then you won’t allow anyone around you who tries to make you feel “less than”. Self-Love guarantees that you won’t have to write a status about a no good partner because there won’t be a no good partner. Self- love helps you to   love others. Without self-love, you have no self worth. So instead of concentrating on romantic love, learn to love yourself fully. 

Take yourself to the movies.  Tell yourself how beautiful, smart, funny, and/or talented you are.  Gift yourself classes in anything you ever wanted to learn.  Go watch a sunset with yourself.  Let yourself know that you are a miracle of the Universe. Get to know yourself more personally.  Caress your skin and hair. Love you for you and others won’t be able to resist loving you also.  

Go for it. What do you have to lose? Friends? They were never that to begin with if they aren’t encouraging you to be good to yourself.  Those types are just as in need of self-love. Remember misery loves company, but why do you want to sit up in the house with misery? You have nothing to lose but you might just gain love and happiness.

One response to “Love and Happiness

  1. VictorO February 22, 2013 at 10:00 PM

    All that I can say…
    The poor don’t know that their function in life is to exercise our generosity. (c)Jean-Paul Sartre [url=””]Motivational|motivation|motivational quotes[/url]

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